I've noticed that you tend to pick overwhelmingly large or unending goals. Maybe start by making your goals smaller and for a shorter period of time, rather than two big parts of your life for an indefinite period (your Project 3 Meals) or a huge amount of work in a shorter time(NaNoWriMo).

Also, it makes more sense to commit to doing things because they fill you with joy. Having written a book or having gotten rid of addictions to empty calorie foods will, in all likelihood, fill you with joy, but so far it seems as if the tactics that you've chosen to get to those goals is not filling you with joy. And really, the journey is more important than the destination anyway, so maybe it's time to try some new tactics that you do find joyful enough to actually do?

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Oh, and for the record, I wrote that for myself as much as I wrote it for you. :-)

I've been setting a lot of my goals unrealistically. So now I'm trying to set my sights on things that I'm more likely to succeed at, given the resources that I already have, or can get reasonably easily. For example, instead of planning to go off to the Buddhist Peace Center for 6 months, I'm starting out by planning to go there for just a month. If things go well, and I'm successful out there in that month, I might choose to stay for longer, or I might choose to come home to New England. Another example is that I've now set a goal of making my husband smile at least once the next time I see him. My overwhelming and currently unrealistic goal (due to lack of resources) was to get him to move back in with me. And the prospects were so slim that that goal was making me miserable. So I'm starting out with the goal of the smile, and if I succeed at that, I'll move on to a more challenging, but still realistic, goal. (Though getting him to smile is pretty damn challenging as it is, since he's been such a miserable person these days, and has felt a huge amount of guilt and fear about me and our relationship...)

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