*hugs*
You do want to get better, she was trying to shock you, to make you progress, and unwittingly discouraged you from it.
Every time you write here
go to a lesbian avengers meeting
honor who you reall are...
those are times you are working at getting better.

Prove the therapist wrong... keep going, get better, show the world how strong you are.

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I don't know anything about it, so you may want to discount my opinion, but maybe she is just a lousy therapist and you need to see someone else. It's her job to help you get better, and if she can't do that, SHE failed, not you. Good luck! (((hugs)))

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I REALLY hate therapy. My therapy never helped me at all, they don`t really know how we feel.

bingeing and purging is evil but I shouldn`t talk
because I "indulge" in it every now and then.

Cutting I do all the time and I understand.

People are stupid. THERAPISTS are stupid

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again, i say, wtf?

i've definitely seen progress & her comments that you mentioned make it sound like she wants all progress to come directly through your relationship with her. grrrr

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A lot of times it takes about 3 or 4 therapists before you find the right one. I wouldn't give up, if I were you. Not every therapist is for everyone. Unfortunately it takes a lot of time to figure that out, which sucks...

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you should definitely consider finding a NEW therapist, rather than just giving up on therapy altogether. although therapists can seem kind of moody & uncaring & strange at times, generally they just want to help you, no matter what it takes.

maybe your old therapist just wasn't right for you.

you should find a new one.

you can do it, beverly; believe in yourself. be strong.
i believe in you. :)
*hug*

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You've bene doing really well lately - just forget about her and keep doing what you did..i mean..think about it -- ELEVEN DAYS WITHOUT PURGING!! That wasn't thanks to the therapist, that was thanks to YOUR willpower to NOT purge, that was YOUR strength, YOUR courage to deal inn other ways..THAT was YOU!!! You didn't cut and didn't purge for days becuase YOU didn't want to, not becuase she told you that you can't or shouldn't.

I had a therapist like that too, she told me she can't help me since I don't want to be helped. FUCK THOSE THERAPIST> A good therapist would NEVER say such thing, I know my current one won't. Sure, she'll tell me she can't help me unless I work at it too, but she'd never say our work is useless.

You are a wonderful person, full of strength, and you are a good person.

The real you is the one that can go without purging and cutting becuase she fights the urge.
The real you is the one that goes to the lesbian Avenger meetings and enjoys going there.
The real you is the one that takes matters into hands when bebe starts cooking meats and tries to find ways to keep from ahving to use those dishes.
The real you is resourceful, wonderful, kind, and absolutly lovable.

And if that therapsit doesn't see it then FUCK HER! It's her loss.

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I'm in agreement with what everyone else has said here. NO therapist worth anything would say to you "you don't want to be helped". I think she is pushing her own issues off on you, which is not ethical behaviour for a therapist. I've been seeing therapists on and off for the past 12 or so years, and believe me, I've come across many more horrible ones than good ones. I'm currently searching for a decent therapist as well as psychiatrist in this area (that my insurance will cover). It's not an easy thing, I know. Anyhow, my thoughts are with you and I hope you are able to find another therapist, one that is worthy of your time.

-j

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And if your therapy sessions are useless, that is your therapists fault, not yours. So what if you don't want to conform to HER standard of what "better" is. Fuck normal. Normal is boring. I am so proud of you for reducing your cutting and bingeing as much as you have, and I know you have the strength to keep fighting the things that hurt you AND embrace the parts of yourself that make you the vibrant wonderful person you are - even if some fucking idiot therapist thinks that makes you "not trying to get better."

Fuck her
Fuck Normal.
You're beautiful. And improving all the time.

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Gawd. Therapy is a profession. Therapy needs peoople in need of therapy.
Therapy creates people in need of therapy.
It is tough to find your goals, but better do it or fail without therapy
than to succeed with a therapist. Better to find god
or yoga, or something. Good luck
Love. sarah.

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